Happy Democrat Day

June 4, 2008 Advice No Comments

My first post is in honor of a happy day for the democratic party.

“Why do white girls love to give head so much more than black ones?” – mr.sleepy

I call it Hillary Clinton syndrome. An ambitious and stubborn white woman just cannot give up against a black powerhouse.

But in all seriousness, there are a lot of social stereotypes when it comes to interracial relationships. Social stereotypes lead to people thinking that they are or aren’t supposed to act a certain way. Women are supposed to only have sex in monogamous situations but it’s okay for men not to, so a lot of women stop having promiscuous sex just because it’s their perceived social norm. Black women are rumored to not like giving head, by both black and non-black culture, so some may develop their sexual personalities around that, either because they’ve decided that there is something wrong with it or for other reasons.

“Lamarr, 30, an attorney in L.A., insists there are sexual benefits to interracial dating: ‘White women are much more accommodating. There’s a saying, What a Black woman won’t do for you, a White woman will.’ He says he recently had one sister tell him, ‘Look, I’m Black. I’m not going to be giving head like the White girls do.’” Essence, 2006.

I should also throw in here that you’ve gotten lucky with some of those white women who enjoy giving head because that is not necessarily the norm there either!

If it’s really something that bothers you, talk to her about it and try to find out what her issues REALLY are.

It could be a confidence issue on her part, buying into the stereotype and feeling like she wouldn’t be able to please you orally. If it’s a hygiene hangup, a shower together before sexy times can lay that to rest, and makes for great foreplay. – Dan C.

If it’s something you’ve become used to but she refuses to compromise in the least, then it becomes a situation where you have to decide if that is a dealbreaker or not. Personally, I’d say that head is probably fantastic, but if she’s pleasing you otherwise, I doubt it’s something to give it all up over. Plus if she does it begrudgingly she might not pay attention and from what I’ve heard teeth are bad.

Or was that teeth are good? *chomp*